Where is God in the Waiting?

This weekend my church hosted a scrapbooking day for about 40 ladies, and I was asked to share a bit of my testimony and what is happening to me right now.  Here is what I shared with them:

Waiting.  Most of us don’t like waiting, especially when we don’t know what’s going to happen.  God has been teaching me a lot about waiting.  I’ve been asked to share a little of what I’ve been going through in the past little while, and I hope it will be an encouragement to you. 

At the beginning of October, I found a lump on my breast.  I didn’t think too much about it because I had found lumps before and they all turned out to be cysts.  Still, I made an appointment with my doctor to have it checked out.  It was two weeks before I could get an appointment.  She agreed I should have it checked, so we booked a mammogram and ultrasound.  Again more waiting – it was almost a month before I could get in for those tests.  At the ultrasound, they confirmed there was a lump, but they couldn’t tell what it was, so they referred me for a biopsy.  Another few weeks of waiting for that.  By the way, biopsies are painful!  Then I had to wait another week and a half to find out the results of the biopsy.  It was about the end of November when I heard the words that I had not really expected to hear, but dreaded nonetheless – I have breast cancer. 

I went home and had a good cry with my husband.  We prayed together – not really knowing what to pray, but just handing it over to God.  An amazing thing happened as we prayed and as my friends started praying for me.  I was overcome with peace.  A palpable, completely illogical peace.  And joy – the kind of joy that cannot be explained by our circumstances but that can only come from God Himself.  And as we prayed, we kept waiting.

I met my surgeon at the beginning of December.  He said I needed to have a lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy to remove the lymph nodes that were closest to the tumour.  He told me to expect this to be followed by about 5 weeks of daily radiation and then possibly chemotherapy.  I just needed to wait for my surgery date (again – more waiting!). 

As a teacher, I don’t have the kind of job that I can just take days off from spontaneously, so the waiting and not knowing was difficult.  I spent the month of December planning for my replacement teacher and training her on how I run my classroom.  Then, on December 21, I started the first phase of my cancer treatment journey, undergoing surgery to remove the tumour and what turned out to be 11 lymph nodes.   No one tells you ahead of time how agonizing the recovery from surgery will be.  I woke up with a drain in my side and two gigantic incisions - one under my armpit and one in my breast.  I was unable to move my right arm.

Then, more waiting!  They won’t start treatment on you until you have completely recovered from surgery, so I began the process of healing.  I had to do painful exercises every day to gain movement back in my arm, and the fatigue is unbelievable.  I was exhausted after doing small tasks for only an hour!  After two weeks, the drain was removed – that was a huge relief!  After three weeks, we met again with my surgeon.  He said that there was cancer in three of the lymph nodes they removed, so I would need chemo first, followed by radiation and hormone therapy.  

It has now been just over six weeks since my surgery.  Every day, I’ve gained more strength and mobility back in my arm.  Things are finally starting to happen now.  This past week, I’ve had an echocardiogram, CT scan, and I’ve met with my oncologist. 

But there are still a lot of unknowns.  On Friday, my oncologist said that there are some spots on my liver that look like cancer, so I still have to have more tests. I don’t know if I’m going to die from this cancer.  I don’t know how my body will react to chemotherapy.  I don’t know when or if I’ll be able to go back to work.  I don’t know how long I’ll be having treatments for.  So there is still more waiting to be done.

So far, it doesn’t sound very pleasant!  Now here’s the encouraging part.  What am I learning through all this waiting?  Lots, but I’ve narrowed it down to three points that I want to talk about.

1. Sometimes life sucks.  Our society today preaches a message of happiness.  If it feels good, do it.  If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it.  You should always be happy.  Seek happiness above everything.  If you’re not happy, quit and do something else.  It sounds good, but it’s impossible.  Bad things are going to happen.  We’re not always going to be happy.  We don’t know when someone we love will die, a natural disaster will occur, terrorist attacks will happen, houses will flood or burn down, forest fires will decimate a community.  The list goes on.  God actually promises in His word that we will go through hard times.  John 16:33 says, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”  What we need to do is ask what God wants us to learn through the hard things.  I heard a quote from a very wise man from our church, Mr. Peter McCallum.  He said, “God loves you just as you are, but He also loves you too much to let you stay that way.”  Often the times we grow the most are in the hard times.  We often want to ask, “Why me?” when something bad happens.  But really, why not me?  Job said, “Shall we accept good from God and not trouble?”  We need to change the question.  Instead of, “Why me?” I asked myself, “What is God trying to teach me through this?  How can I glorify God through this?  How can God use this to help others?”  And I do know one other thing:  Happiness and joy are not the same thing.  While I’m not happy that I have cancer, I have an amazing joy that comes from God.  My joy is not dependent on what is happening to me.  I can have joy outside of my circumstances because God has filled me with His Spirit.  Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”  I accepted Jesus as my Saviour when I was 17 years old, and I’ve walked with God ever since.  I’ve gone through a lot of amazing, fantastic times.  Why should I stop trusting Him now that something I’m not thrilled with is happening?  I’ve seen enough of God’s goodness to know that I can trust Him and that He is going to take this horrible season and turn it into something good.  And yes, that means even if I die from cancer, I trust that God is in control of it, and He can use that for something good - maybe for someone else.  I may not know it or understand it, but I know HE IS TRUSTWORTHY. 

2. God is with us in the waiting – As I mentioned before, I have felt God’s presence and peace through this whole process.  Sure, I’ve had my moments of crying and wanting to give up, and the hard part hasn’t even started yet.  But God will not let me go.  John 1:12 – 13 says, “Yet to all who did receive him (Jesus), to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God - children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.”  What does it mean to be a child of God?  When we receive Jesus as our Saviour and become a child of God, God promises that He will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5).  We are NEVER alone.  We may go through hard times, but we never go through them by ourselves.  And knowing that God is with me gives me hope.  Psalm 62:5-6 says, “Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him. Truly he is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken.”

3. Don’t let fear overwhelm you – true peace comes from God.  There is a lot of fear in our society these days.  You don’t have to scroll through Facebook for very long to see all the evidence of fear – some of it justifiable, most of it not!  And a cancer diagnosis comes with a lot of fear!  Even though I trust God, that doesn’t mean I’m not sometimes afraid.  I don’t look forward to the pain I’m going to have to go through.  I don’t want to go through chemo and feel sick.  I don’t want my kids to have to grow up without their mother or my husband to be a widower.  I don’t want to lose my hair!  But here is what I have also learned:  God’s love casts out fear.  When I am fearful, it is because in my mind, I’m going through all the possibilities of what could happen.  Matthew 6:27 says, “Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?”  All the scenarios I’m going through in my mind cannot possibly happen.  Sure, some of them may, but I don’t know which ones, and worrying about them won’t change things.  Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”  When I choose to focus my thoughts on God and His promises, I have peace.  When I hand my fears over to Him and choose to trust Him with what will happen, I have peace.  God was not surprised by my cancer diagnosis.  He knew it was going to happen, and He is walking beside me and before me, preparing the way for me.  I’m going to try to let Him handle the details and not worry because fear does not help me. 

So in the waiting, I’m learning to let go and just rest in knowing that God knows what is going to happen and He’s got it.  So I will continue to wait.  I’m just at the beginning of my cancer journey, and I know there is a lot of hard stuff ahead for me, but I also know that my God is good, He is with me, He is trustworthy, He gives me peace, and He is in control.   Psalm 33:20-22 says, “We wait in hope for the Lord; He is our help and our shield.  In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name. May your unfailing love be with us, Lord, even as we put our hope in you.”

I don’t know what you’re going through right now.  Some of you are in a good season; some of you are struggling with things and going through hard times.  Please know that for those who are children of God, He is with you through all of it.  Do you understand how much God loves you?  Will you trust Him?